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For those days you need extra motivation to let go of perfect and create your own rules for life
Instead Of Goals, Try This
A few weeks ago I was thinking about what I wanted to do this summer and the thought came to me: One of my GOALS is to spend more time in the mountains.
Even though it was my own thought (hello past programming!), I immediately recoiled.
It’s time To Marie Kondo Your Life!
This is going to be fun! It's time to do some Marie Kondo-ing. And we're taking this way beyond your closet.
I invite you to think about how you can Marie Kondo your entire life. I've been doing this slowly over the past several years - and can I tell you how FREEING it is?
You can Marie Kondo your activities, decorations in your house, even relationships. It's okay to let go of things that are no longer you. Or that never were you - you only had them because of the "should" and "supposed-to" rules you've been taught.
You also get to ADD what DOES feel like you.
The Bias Women Experience
I speak at events for mostly women through employee resource networks and conferences. As you might imagine, over the years I've heard A LOT of stories of the bias that women experience in their day-to-day lives. So I decided to put those stories into a blog. It's the ten most common experiences of bias I've heard from women. I decided to share this list of the bias women experience to build awareness and start conversations.
Three Ways To Quiet The Inner Critic
The inner critic is real! It shows up in response to imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and all the rules you’re taught about what you’re “supposed” to do to be a good woman, parent, friend, spouse, employee, leader, etc! When you fall short of the standards embedded in those rules, your inner critic swoops in.
My book Won An Award! And it Feels A Little Arrogant to Share It With You
I'm excited, honored, proud, and a touch overwhelmed to announce that An Overachiever's Guide To Breaking The Rules won a Next Generation Indie Book Award! What's also true is that it feels WEIRD to share this news with you. It feels a little arrogant. A little like, “Look at me, aren’t I awesome?!?”
Three Ways To Reconnect To Yourself
So many things can take YOU away from YOU. There's the busy chaos of your day-to-day life. The voices of OTHER people rattling around in your head telling you what to do. The lying, imposter syndrome-inducing inner critic. The rules passed down to you that said you have to take care of everyone, be responsible for everything, and never, ever disappoint anyone. Any of that sound familiar?
Force vs Flow
Do you feel like you're FORCING things in your work - or life as a whole? Like everything you do has to be successful - and you're going to MAKE that happen no matter what? I used to feel this way a lot. And it's not fun!
Surviving To Thriving - A New Way To Manage Burnout
I read and research a lot about burnout. What causes it, how we can recover from it individually and collectively, how we are experiencing burnout differently now than 6 months ago...and 6 months before that.
If You’re Feeling A little Anxious Right Now…
I had planned to write a different blog today. But then something came up for me that I needed to share -- and I think you'll resonate with it as well. It's about the anxiety of this moment -- and how it creeps up on me and sometimes smacks me right over the head out of nowhere. Like Monday night…
How To Feel ALIVE Again
Spring always sparks a stirring inside of me—one represented by new growth peeking through the snow and the returning chirps of birds as they begin building their nests. This stirring is one of aliveness, regeneration, and hope. I’d like to share with you what I know to be true about this human experience and what it means to be alive.
An Unexpected Lesson In Letting Go Of Perfect
I want to tell you a story about how letting go of perfect added so much joy on a recent trip to Mexico - for me and for others. Here's the start of the story: I used to be TERRIFIED to sing alone in front of other people. I was afraid my voice would crack and I would get off key and sound terrible. Basically, I was afraid of not being perfect.
What To Do When You Feel Behind
This isn’t about what to do when you feel behind on your to-do list — it’s about what to do when you feel behind in your career, business, or life as a whole. This video will walk through four key tips to remind yourself of the progress you’ve made and reconnect to what’s most important. You’ll also get one final tip on what to do when something really is important and you’re not making the progress you’d like.
The First Question To Ask To Recreate Your Life
It's time to recreate my life in a true new normal. It's been so long, I feel like I don't even know how to be in a "normal" anymore - even if it's a new normal! One thing I do know for sure -- I don't just want to go back to what I was doing pre-pandemic just because that's what I did. I’m starting by asking myself this one question.
The Moment I knew My Job Had To Change
Five years ago today, my life changed. On this day in 2017, I found out my job was changing from something I loved to something I had absolutely ZERO interest in. I still remember the exact moment my manager said the words. My entire body had a visceral NO reaction. It was also my birthday. CLEALY the universe was sending me a message.
Beating The Addiction To Praise & Validation
Today's topic is for all the overachievers, former straight-A students, and past good girls out there: How do you let go of the need for praise and validation? I'll tell you the answer. It's simple, but not easy. You have to get to know yourself. Learn more about how in this 3-minute video.
How To Let Go Of Criticism
You know when criticism sticks in your head and swirls around and around, creating a ruminating split pea soup of toxicity? We've all been there. It's NOT fun. So what can you do about it? Here are two practices to help stop the toxic swirl and move forward.
Is it Imposter Syndrome? Or an Area You Really Need To Improve?
How do you know if it's an area you really need to improve or if it's just imposter syndrome? Such a great question! Because it's true - imposter syndrome can straight up LIE to you and make you think that you need to improve in an area that's you're already just fine (or even great!) at. So how do you know?
The Secret About Feedback
Welcome to part one of a four-part series that’s all about feedback, criticism, praise, and where to focus your development. We’ll dive into imposter syndrome, how to let go of criticism and the need for praise, and today’s topic: The secret about feedback that we don’t talk about.
It’s The New Year! You Can Still Rest When You Need
On Monday, December 27, I noticed something interesting...TONS of people were jumping on social media with one common message: DO NOTHING THIS WEEK. Yes, I hope you got rest and rejuvenation and whatever else you needed from the holidays. But I noticed a subtle underlying message to most of these posts that I didn't like and don't agree with at all.
Release the Internal Pressure Valve With This One Question
Are you feeling the weight of expectations? Like you are constantly “on” and have to work all the time? Do you put undue pressure on yourself to perform? If so, this video is for you. I’ll share ONE question to ask yourself to decrease stress and save yourself time and energy.