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For those days you need extra motivation to let go of perfect and create your own rules for life
Everything Feeling Blah? Here’s What To Do
Last week I was EXHAUSTED. I rallied for coaching calls and the webinars I facilitated (one of which, ironically, was on managing your energy!), but then I crashed. This wasn't exhaustion from lack of sleep - it's emotional exhaustion from the entire last year. It's burnout. Here are my top four tips to manage burnout right now.
The Courage To GO IN and GROW THROUGH
This morning I heard something that I immediately knew I had to share: It's not about getting over, it's about growing through. That hit me DEEP. So often we just want to get over the hard things - and, let's be honest, sometimes other people just want us to get over them, too.
Mullets and Snakes And Remembering Exactly Who You Are
Do you have a photo that REALLY looks like you? Here’s mine - I'm in second grade. Holding a snake and looking STRAIGHT at the camera with a smile. I'm also rocking a mullet. I look at this photo and see a girl who knows EXACTLY who she is - before the rules I was taught to play took hold.
The top three ways my life has changed since letting go of proving and overdoing
I used to be the classic over-doer. I over-did EVERYTHING. School, work, exercise - even fun! And then I realized I didn't want to keep living that way. So I dug in. And I let go. Here are the top three things that are different TODAY from when I was living in constant over-doer, proving mode.
Finding Power In Saying No
I've been hesitant to share this story because it involves losing weight. There's so much pressure on women to lose weight and have the perfect body and it makes me so angry that I don’t want to focus on it. But I'm doing it today for a very specific reason -- losing weight taught me the unbelievable power (and joy!) that comes with saying no.
A New Way To Take Control When Everything Feels Out of Control
We've gone through so much uncertainty for so long that we're all searching for places we can have control. Perfecting and overdoing is one way to do that. But there's another way to gain control: SAYING NO and DOING LESS.
Letting Yourself Be Seen In The Messy Middle
I used to feel most of my big emotions in private. I'd cry on my own. Wallow solo with wine and ice cream and the Hallmark channel. Sob within the safe confines of my condo. And THEN I'd talk to my friends or family. AFTER the messy middle. When I could constructively share my emotions without actually SHOWING them. No more.
How To Prevent Burnout This Year
Yesterday I woke up feeling like my legs were made of lead weights adhered to the mattress. I'm tired. But I'm not burned out. Not yet. And I don't want to be. So this year, in 2021, I'm going to take a breath. I have no big, audacious goals for the year. Not one.
Amanda Gorman: Words To Live By
I turned on the inauguration yesterday because I wanted to welcome a new era and celebrate the fact that we have our first-ever woman, South Asian, black Vice President (seriously, glass is shattered all over the place!). But I'll also admit I was multi-tasking. Until Amanda Gorman came on.
My Biggest Lessons Learned in 2020
Last year I bought a card at a farmer's market that said on the front, "Oh no, not another learning experience!" I feel like this card is ALL OF 2020. There were a million lessons learned this year, but as I reflected over 2020, three big ones jumped out for me that I wanted to share with you.
Living Alone During A Pandemic
I realized in that moment of disappointment that I hadn’t touched a single living thing in two weeks. No hugs. No handshakes. No simple touch of the arm. Nothing. That’s when the tears started.
Permission To Rest
Last week I had conversations with two different women on the same day that were exact carbon copies of each other. What were they about? Giving yourself permission to rest over the holidays when you feel like you “should” be productive.
Self-Care For Overachievers
I've noticed something with many of my coaching clients over the years. When they talk about self-care, it ends up being about all the things they think they "should" do. But those things don’t often actually work for them. Here’s a different approach to take.
What To Do When So Much Feels Hard
I got on a call with my coach yesterday and started talking about something that I thought was completely unrelated to the pandemic - and then 50 minutes into our 60 minute call I broke down in tears because I missed people SO MUCH.
The Message Every Woman Needs To Hear
Last Friday I laced up my hiking shoes, silenced my phone, and headed out for a short walk in the woods. Ten minutes into enjoying the sunshine and movement I was suddenly overcome with words I just HAD to write. I pulled out my phone and stood on the side of the trail writing line after line into my Evernote app. This is what came out. This is everything I want to say to my clients, to myself, and to all women everywhere. This is my message for you.
The Fallacy Of Finding Your Passion & Purpose
Are you looking for your purpose? Your passion? The thing that will make your career meaningful and fulfilling? The place where you can really make an impact? If so, this article is for you. I searched for my thing for years. I was on a quest to discover my passion, the ONE thing that would be the guiding north star in my entire career.
How To Release All The Emotions Running Inside Of You
How many different emotions were you feeling yesterday? And probably still today? If you're anything like me, there were A LOT. And they were intense. The uncertainty of waiting for the election results sat like a rock in my stomach. So I did what I always do. I danced and I walked. A strange thing happened on the walk....
A story of Hope On This Election Day
It's election day today. I'm feeling a weird elixir of fear, anxiety, and hope.I feel them all - and I choose hope. I have to choose hope. I just have to. I have to believe that love and empathy will help us find our way towards healing in our country. I have to believe, because the alternative simply isn't an option.
It’s Time To Reassess Your Boundaries - Here’s How
You're seven months into Covid. A situation you probably never thought much about before it actually happened. And DEFINITELY a situation you never thought would still be going on and affecting your daily life. Now is the time to reassess. To set boundaries between your work and the rest of your life ON PURPOSE.
How To Get Through Fear
June 2017 was a month of HUGE uncertainty for me. I had internally decided to leave my job and become an entrepreneur, but I hadn’t actually pulled the trigger. About 90% of the time I was excited for the possibilities. The other 10% of the time I felt like someone had wrapped a corset around my lungs and pulled the strings tight. Here’s how I dealt with that fear.