I have a deep, deep belief that all people have a right to be heard. I’ve reflected a lot on where this belief came from and it goes all the way back to childhood. When I was growing up, I interacted with a lot of different people. My dad was a lawyer and when his clients came over for dinner, I was included in the conversation. My mom taught blind and visually impaired kids and was very involved with her students, so I went bowling with kids that couldn’t see the lanes, met students that were immigrants and Hmong refugees, and saw a whole different side of life than what existed in my white upper middle class suburb.
You know what I learned from this?
ALL PEOPLE ARE JUST PEOPLE.
We each have a story to tell and a right to be heard.
But here’s the next thing (this is going to feel like a ninth grade geometry theorem!):
If I believe that all people have a right to be heard.
And I am a person.
Then I also have a right to be heard.
I remind myself of this whenever I get nervous to share. Or I feel like I’m not enough of an expert to have an opinion. Or when what I’m doing feels big. Uncomfortably big.
You also have a right to be heard. You have a point of view that should be shared – and listened to. Your ideas can change your team, company, and customers. They could have an impact way bigger and broader than what you could ever imagine.
But your ideas can’t change anything if they aren’t heard. Part of being heard is just saying the words. Getting up the courage to raise your hand and SPEAK.
But the other part of being is heard is HOW you speak.
Do you ever start a sentence with “I’m no expert, but…” or “You may have already thought about this…”
Do you ever ask a question when you really have a clear opinion to share?
Do you apologize just for sharing that opinion?
If so, then you are decreasing the power of your idea. Your important message won’t be heard clearly.
Most of the time we don’t even realize all the ways we decrease the weight of our message. They are habits we learn early and they go on autopilot.
But once you know about these habits you can change them! Subtle shifts in the way you speak, write, and carry yourself will have a HUGE impact in how your message is interpreted.
I believe we need more women’s voice in the world. That’s why I do the work I do and that’s why I created Confident Communication for Women – a 90-minute live online class to raise your awareness on all the things that decrease the power of our communication – so that you can change them and BE HEARD.
Be heard in a team meeting. In a job interview. In a presentation. In a salary negotiation. In a client pitch. Even at home.
It’s time for you to be heard. Confident Communication for Women is Tuesday, April 23, 12:00-1:30pm central time. I will record the class and send it to everyone that registers, so even if you can’t make it live, you’ll still get all the information. Cost is just $25 and includes a checklist for writing powerful emails.
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