This morning at The Business Women’s Circle I facilitate we discussed women, confidence, and all the weird and unexpected ways that lower confidence shows up, like perfectionism and feeling like an imposter. One of the biggest outcomes is not taking risks.
We tend to think of all the potential downsides to taking a risk. Every single little thing that could go possibly go wrong. But what about the risk of doing nothing at all?
Pause for a second. Think about your life. If you’re still in the same place five years from will you be happy?
If the answer is yes – awesome! Keep going forward, growing and evolving!
If the answer is no – then ask yourself again – what is the real risk of doing nothing?
The real risk is (not) having a job you really love, (not) contributing your awesomeness to the world, (not) creating from your heart – (not) being the full and amazing person that you are. Those are the real risks. What do you choose?
Heather Whelpley is a coach and speaker that works with women to master doubt and imposter syndrome and own their brilliance. Learn more about her coaching services here.
Last week I decided to give up something I really wanted to do – lead a group coaching program. The design was nearly complete and I was excited to get started. The problem? I couldn’t find 3 people for the pilot that were both interested in a group program and available at the same time each week for 12 weeks in a row. It was even hard for my schedule and I was the one leading it!
So I let it go.
I was disappointed. And instantly relieved. The stress I had been feeling melted away.
The same day I decided to stop the group program I confirmed two new clients. I had three more referrals and a request to write a proposal for a women’s coaching and development program by the end of the week.
It was like the universe knew I had space and energy and it rushed in to fill it up with amazing possibilities.
We hear a lot of messages about persistence and determination when we are growing up. Stick to the path! Keep on keeping on! Perseverance is the key to success! And there is a time to hold onto your dreams with both hands and scrape your way forward.
But there’s also a time to pause, honestly ask ourselves what isn’t working, and choose a better way.
This is especially true when it comes to our careers. I hear clients say:
I’ve been on this path for 10 years and the future is laid out in front of me. But I’m not sure I want to be on this path anymore.
My managers have always told me I have potential and will be a great leader. What if I want to use my potential in a different way?
I want to try something else, but I’m afraid I’ll disappoint everyone.
Choosing a different path is not failure. It is an opportunity to create the possibility for something great.
Take the first step towards a future that you really want. Start exploring the options. Talk to new people. Reflect on what’s most important to you.
And if you want help on the journey, I work with clients that are feeling stuck in their career. We’ll work together to figure out what you really want and build a plan to create a meaningful career.
The path isn’t laid out in front of you – you create the path as you walk forward. It’s your move.
Heather Whelpley is a speaker and coach that works with women to combat self-doubt, own their brilliance, and step into the career and life they desire. Click here to learn more.