What To Do When You Feel Guilty For Wanting To Leave Your Job

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You have a good job. Decent salary. 401K match. Benefits. Stable company. You’re even working in the field you wanted.

There’s just one problem.

You don’t like your job.

And you feel GUILTY for even entertaining the idea of a change.

You have ALL the thoughts…

  • I have what I wanted – shouldn’t I be happy?
  • Other people would kill for this job and all the great things I have in my life – why can’t I just enjoy it?
  • What is everyone going to think if I leave? Will they be mad?
  • Why can’t I just be grateful?

Here’s the little secret….

This isn’t an either/or situation.

You can be GRATEFUL and want CHANGE at the same time.

Wanting something different doesn’t mean you’re greedy.

Leaving your company doesn’t mean you aren’t loyal.

Changing jobs or entire careers doesn’t mean you aren’t grateful for everything that has brought you to this point.

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When your inner voice nudges you in a new direction, you NEED to explore it. Even if you aren’t sure what’s next. Even if you don’t know where the new direction might lead.

It’s time to stop feeling guilty for knowing you’re meant for something different.

Be grateful – and start changing.

 

Heather Whelpley is a coach and speaker that works with women to stop the hustle and reclaim their joy. Click HERE to join Heather’s mailing list and receive a free copy of Five Ways To Quiet The Inner Critic.

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

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I was recently discussing career and life change with a women’s group I facilitate. Questions and concerns were coming up, like:

  • How do you know the right thing to do?
  • What’s the best next job for me?
  • How do you know if the company is a good fit?

In the midst of all these questions, one of our group members offered the answer:

You have to build your own lighthouse and let that guide you. 

It’s great to ask questions. To get insights from people that have been in careers you’re interested in pursuing. Individuals that have done the thing you’re pondering, whether it’s starting a business, writing a book, or taking six months off to travel the world.

But even the best, most experienced, most well-intentioned people can’t give you the answer.

Only you can do that.

You have to build you own lighthouse and let that guide you towards the answers.

So how do you build that lighthouse exactly?

You have to know what’s most important to YOU. Not to your friends or parents or any cultural expectations – to YOU. What do you value most? What really makes you FULFILLED? When do you feel like you’re contributing and operating at a higher level of yourself? Where are you being called?

For some of you, this might be easy. You’ve already done the self-exploration work needed to answer these questions. You have the forest cleared, the plans drawn out, and you can start building your lighthouse now.

For many you, the plans for the lighthouse are blurred. They are clouded by the inner critic, the expectations you’ve put on yourself over the years, ego, family and cultural expectations.

So you have to clear the forest before building. You need to understand the blockages clouding your internal lighthouse. You need to get quiet and reconnect with your true inner voice.

Then you draw the plans and break ground. The lighthouse you build will be the internal guide pointing you towards your authentic path.

Let’s start clearing.

P.S. Writing is a wonderful way to get reconnected to your true inner voice and see your lighthouse. Click HERE for a journaling exercise to help you do just that.