When was the last time you asked yourself what YOU really wanted? Not what your boss or spouse or parents wanted, but you? Not what you thought you wanted when you were 25 or what you are “supposed” to want, but YOUR desires, right now, at this point in your life?
I’m guessing it’s been a long time for many of you. Even those of you that spend a lot of time reflecting and setting goals can get caught up in the “supposed-to’s” instead designing the life you desire.
It’s time for you to reconnect to you.
To hear the whisper inside your heart that’s been waiting patiently for you to listen.
To feel where you’re being called this year.
I have 3 journaling prompts to help you do just that.
I recommend setting a timer for 5 minutes, putting your pen to paper to answer the first prompt, and then writing continuously until the timer goes off. Don’t worry about grammar or punctuation or even if you’re making sense. Just write. Repeat with the other two prompts. Here they are:
If you had a magic wand, what would be different one year from today?
My heart is telling me to…
At the end of the year, I’ll regret if I don’t…
After you finish writing, go back and read through what you wrote. What jumps out at you? What messages is your true inner voice telling you about where you’re being called this year?
I’m seeing a TON of podcasts and emails right now about doing a deep dive not just into the last year, but the last DECADE. And then planning your big goals and dreams for the next year – or decade – of life.
I’m all about reflecting. And I’m all about big dreams. I have an entire day blocked off next week for reflection and strategic planning for 2020.
But I also know it’s easy to look back and instead of seeing what you’re proud of, you see all the places you feel behind. And then that feeling quadruples when you starting thinking about the future and some imaginary point when you’ll finally be have it all together and be complete.
I had a client recently tell me that she didn’t feel like she could rest until she was fully formed. Like she wasn’t already enough in this moment.
Have you ever felt like that? Like you just need the better job or a revenue level and then you will have made it. Or you need to get married. Or have kids. Or buy a house. Or lose 20 pounds.
Just one more thing and then you will be enough.
I’m here to say YOU ARE ALREADY ENOUGH.
You are both whole and constantly forming at the same time.
You are already amazing. And you are developing and learning every single day.
You have nothing to prove. You can stop hustling and take a breath.
You deserve to feel good on the journey – because it’s all a journey.
I’ll say it again. You are already enough.
Remember this as you reflect on the last year and dream your dreams for 2020.