Staying true to yourself when you want to make people happy

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One of the women in Beyond Perfect recently said in one of our group calls, “I just want to please others and be true to myself.”

I’m going to tell you a hard truth: You can’t always have both.

I’m normally all about the both/add and finding the win-win, but that’s not always the case when it comes to pleasing others and staying true to yourself.

Sometimes you have to choose between pleasing others and pleasing yourself.

Between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself.

Between living the life you desire and living the life others expect of you.


You deserve to choose you.

I don’t say this lightly. I know it isn’t an easy choice. You’ve been taught to put everyone else first and it is SO UNCOMFORTABLE to stand up for what you need and want.

It feels selfish. Sometimes even arrogant. There’s often guilt.

I even got a little uncomfortable writing this blog wondering if it was too strong or individualistic! 

And at the same time, when you choose to be true to yourself instead of pleasing others, you are living YOUR TRUTH. You weren’t put on this earth to follow what someone else thought was the best path for you. You are here to be YOU, to fulfill YOUR purpose, to live according to YOUR expectations.

And even more – when you choose to follow your own path, you are creating change

​​You are bucking the system that taught you to hold back your voice. You are breaking the rules put in place to keep the status quo. You are making an impact just by living life according to your own set of rules.

It’s not always an easy choice. But it is still a choice. What do you choose?

P.S. Click here to get on the waitlist for the next Beyond Perfect! It will be happening this fall!

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