What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

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I was recently discussing career and life change with a women’s group I facilitate. Questions and concerns were coming up, like:

  • How do you know the right thing to do?
  • What’s the best next job for me?
  • How do you know if the company is a good fit?

In the midst of all these questions, one of our group members offered the answer:

You have to build your own lighthouse and let that guide you. 

It’s great to ask questions. To get insights from people that have been in careers you’re interested in pursuing. Individuals that have done the thing you’re pondering, whether it’s starting a business, writing a book, or taking six months off to travel the world.

But even the best, most experienced, most well-intentioned people can’t give you the answer.

Only you can do that.

You have to build you own lighthouse and let that guide you towards the answers.

So how do you build that lighthouse exactly?

You have to know what’s most important to YOU. Not to your friends or parents or any cultural expectations – to YOU. What do you value most? What really makes you FULFILLED? When do you feel like you’re contributing and operating at a higher level of yourself? Where are you being called?

For some of you, this might be easy. You’ve already done the self-exploration work needed to answer these questions. You have the forest cleared, the plans drawn out, and you can start building your lighthouse now.

For many you, the plans for the lighthouse are blurred. They are clouded by the inner critic, the expectations you’ve put on yourself over the years, ego, family and cultural expectations.

So you have to clear the forest before building. You need to understand the blockages clouding your internal lighthouse. You need to get quiet and reconnect with your true inner voice.

Then you draw the plans and break ground. The lighthouse you build will be the internal guide pointing you towards your authentic path.

Let’s start clearing.

P.S. Writing is a wonderful way to get reconnected to your true inner voice and see your lighthouse. Click HERE for a journaling exercise to help you do just that.

 

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