What do you believe?
It’s a big question.
We hold beliefs about everything – the job we’re supposed to be in, how attractive we are, whether we’re good at painting, running, math, or being a leader. Our beliefs affect how we work, learn, love, and live.
I inadvertently began a deep dive into my own beliefs in January during a discussion on spirituality with Andy, a friend (and fellow coach!) I had recently met. I referenced my past Christian upbringing when describing the connection I felt in the world by saying, “I guess that’s what some people would call the Holy Spirit.”
“You can call it whatever you want.”
It wasn’t exactly a spiritual awakening – more like a spiritual startling. I had to pause for moment to let it sink in.
He was right. This was my belief. I could call it whatever I wanted.
I continued examining my beliefs in preparation for a panel discussion on generations and faith at St. Andrew’s Lutheran Church in February, the church where I grew up and worked for many years. During a meeting ahead of the panel, someone mentioned they didn’t understand what it meant to be spiritual and not religious. So I decided to share my perspective during the event.
In front of 200 people.
In the same room where I had been confirmed 23 years earlier.
The irony and impact of the moment hit me about an hour before I went on stage. A million thoughts went through my head. Would people be disappointed in me? Would they look at me like I was crazy when I described spirituality as being in the flow and feeling like I was stepping into the river of the universe?
Maybe. But I did it anyway.
It was a true adult moment. I stood on a stage with a microphone and put a stake in the ground on my beliefs. And I called them what I wanted; what I chose.
Last Thursday I attended a workshop on creating happiness. The facilitators told us that we are constantly cultivating our beliefs – and it’s our job to weed out the beliefs that no longer serve us.
Think for a moment….
Are you in a job today because of a belief you held at nineteen that no longer applies?
Do you avoid art classes or public speaking or asking someone out on a date because somewhere along the line you believed you weren’t good enough?
How many of your beliefs were given to you by your parents? Your teachers? A former boyfriend, coach, or manager?
Do those beliefs still serve you?
Or is it time to do some weeding?
Heather Whelpley is a coach and speaker that works with women to master doubt and imposter syndrome and own their brilliance. Learn more about her coaching services here.